How you can avoid becoming your parents…

Do the work.

Yes, you heard me. You have to do the work.

What exactly this work looks like will look different for every person. What I have come to realize is that if you don’t sit with yourself and get to know what triggers you, you will face the same obstacles over and over again until you learn the lesson.

My lesson hasn’t been easy to uncover by any means, but getting into relationships that almost mirrored my parent’s toxic dynamic, I have come to understand the truth of it. That I date the “fixer”, the “narcissist”, the “avoidant”, because in some ways I am avoiding my own healing.

When I am this fragile, little girl that a big man can understand— an